This is a very bold post which I have decided to write just to let out the frustration inside me.
One of my bad experiences in Noida.
I left my former job in Gurgaon with a lot of thrill because I started to have monotony in my life. I needed a fresh start , a fresh outlook.
We moved to Noida where I used to live before my marriage, a familiar area with lots of friends and relatives around.
We came here and were pleasantly delighted by the greenery and the number of parks here , the local vegetable markets here has fresh fruits and vegetables from villages, much better in comparison to Gurgaon. We have small shops and local markets to buy small necessities at a walking distance from home. We have tailors everywhere. Mom was happy because our mamaji and mausiji live here with their families at 10 mins distance from our home.
Also, my husband's travel to office vehemently reduced due to which he is available at home by 6:30 pm and he spends much more quality time with our son.
Joining the new company has also been a absolutely pleasant experience till now.
I was happy to hear from everyone that public transport is good in Noida and we don't need to book Uber cab everytime when my husband is not available, for moving around , like in I used to do in Gurgaon.
So far so good.
BUT, some issues did cropped up.
Once I started using public transport for commuting to office , I was once again exposed to dirty looks of men, no matter how decently I dress.
One day while returning from office at around 6:30 pm, my colleague dropped me halfway to home and then I took a cycle rickshaw because my home was just 10 mins away.
The rickshaw puller used a shortcut to my home which I am quite familiar with. It gets dark soon nowadays because of the winters approaching, and to top that , there was a powercut due which the shortcut road was completely dark. The rickshawala suddenly stopped his rickshaw. I panicked. I am a regular viewer of Crime Patrol and that made my mind to reel through all horrible things that can happen with a lady. I asked, "bhaiya rickshaw kyun roka?". He answered, "andhera hai peshab karna hai maam ek minute mein ata hun." He then went to the side of the road 10 mtrs away from me. I was waiting for him and kept an emergency phone number ready on my phone , just in case something happened. 3-4 minutes afterwards I heard him calling me.."maaam maam". I turned to look at him. He stood staring at me showing his 'u-know-what' from the zip of his pants and started coming towards me like that !!! I jumped down from the rickshaw with the office laptop bag on my back , tiffin box and phone on my hands. I looked around to shout for help but there was no one on the dark road. I started running with all my might, thanks to Almighty that in the morning I had decided to put on flat comfy pump shoes that day and not heels. While running I thought of the android emergency button or calling my husband but by the time anyone comes to save me , he would have definitely pounded upon me. When I caught pace running , I looked back once, to see him starting his rickshaw chasing me, ringing the bell continuously , shouting at me , "maam maam maam, paise to de do". I could feel hot red blood rising in my head due to uncontrollable temper going up and up. How dare he I thought , how dare he !!!!? What was he even expecting out of me ...that ..I won't be able to keep my sexual hunger in control after I see him ??!!!
Had there been people around, I could have shouted for help and would have slapped him tight.
Worst part is that it happened just 5 minutes away from my home at a familiar road , because power was not there that time.
After that day I stopped using public transport in Noida and started using Ola cabs or Uber cabs on everyday basis.
And this is not the first time this has happened to me by lecherous men. I have had to mend my otherwise logically correct lifestyle to tweak in the danger from beast-like men.
I hate it !!!... it angers me from within !! What do this class of men think ? What pleasure do they get out of this ?
Why in spite of being educated and independent , why do I fear darkness , why do I fear unknown men , why do I fear small roads ?
Why can't we women take public transport even though our homes may be few minutes away ?
Whatttttt is needed to rectify this in India? Or should we continue teach our daughters to live in fear, avoid public transport , shortcut roads and from men and their needs ?
I feel guilty ! Because that rickshaw puller must have been doing the same thing to some other girl on some other route because he did not get beaten up properly that day, to teach him a good lesson for life !! He has the courage to do it again because he thinks he can get away with it...!! Why are some men so sex-starved here that they can stoop to any level to get it from simply anyone , even small kids ?
One of my bad experiences in Noida.
I left my former job in Gurgaon with a lot of thrill because I started to have monotony in my life. I needed a fresh start , a fresh outlook.
We moved to Noida where I used to live before my marriage, a familiar area with lots of friends and relatives around.
We came here and were pleasantly delighted by the greenery and the number of parks here , the local vegetable markets here has fresh fruits and vegetables from villages, much better in comparison to Gurgaon. We have small shops and local markets to buy small necessities at a walking distance from home. We have tailors everywhere. Mom was happy because our mamaji and mausiji live here with their families at 10 mins distance from our home.
Also, my husband's travel to office vehemently reduced due to which he is available at home by 6:30 pm and he spends much more quality time with our son.
Joining the new company has also been a absolutely pleasant experience till now.
I was happy to hear from everyone that public transport is good in Noida and we don't need to book Uber cab everytime when my husband is not available, for moving around , like in I used to do in Gurgaon.
So far so good.
BUT, some issues did cropped up.
Once I started using public transport for commuting to office , I was once again exposed to dirty looks of men, no matter how decently I dress.
One day while returning from office at around 6:30 pm, my colleague dropped me halfway to home and then I took a cycle rickshaw because my home was just 10 mins away.
The rickshaw puller used a shortcut to my home which I am quite familiar with. It gets dark soon nowadays because of the winters approaching, and to top that , there was a powercut due which the shortcut road was completely dark. The rickshawala suddenly stopped his rickshaw. I panicked. I am a regular viewer of Crime Patrol and that made my mind to reel through all horrible things that can happen with a lady. I asked, "bhaiya rickshaw kyun roka?". He answered, "andhera hai peshab karna hai maam ek minute mein ata hun." He then went to the side of the road 10 mtrs away from me. I was waiting for him and kept an emergency phone number ready on my phone , just in case something happened. 3-4 minutes afterwards I heard him calling me.."maaam maam". I turned to look at him. He stood staring at me showing his 'u-know-what' from the zip of his pants and started coming towards me like that !!! I jumped down from the rickshaw with the office laptop bag on my back , tiffin box and phone on my hands. I looked around to shout for help but there was no one on the dark road. I started running with all my might, thanks to Almighty that in the morning I had decided to put on flat comfy pump shoes that day and not heels. While running I thought of the android emergency button or calling my husband but by the time anyone comes to save me , he would have definitely pounded upon me. When I caught pace running , I looked back once, to see him starting his rickshaw chasing me, ringing the bell continuously , shouting at me , "maam maam maam, paise to de do". I could feel hot red blood rising in my head due to uncontrollable temper going up and up. How dare he I thought , how dare he !!!!? What was he even expecting out of me ...that ..I won't be able to keep my sexual hunger in control after I see him ??!!!
Had there been people around, I could have shouted for help and would have slapped him tight.
Worst part is that it happened just 5 minutes away from my home at a familiar road , because power was not there that time.
After that day I stopped using public transport in Noida and started using Ola cabs or Uber cabs on everyday basis.
And this is not the first time this has happened to me by lecherous men. I have had to mend my otherwise logically correct lifestyle to tweak in the danger from beast-like men.
I hate it !!!... it angers me from within !! What do this class of men think ? What pleasure do they get out of this ?
Why in spite of being educated and independent , why do I fear darkness , why do I fear unknown men , why do I fear small roads ?
Why can't we women take public transport even though our homes may be few minutes away ?
Whatttttt is needed to rectify this in India? Or should we continue teach our daughters to live in fear, avoid public transport , shortcut roads and from men and their needs ?
I feel guilty ! Because that rickshaw puller must have been doing the same thing to some other girl on some other route because he did not get beaten up properly that day, to teach him a good lesson for life !! He has the courage to do it again because he thinks he can get away with it...!! Why are some men so sex-starved here that they can stoop to any level to get it from simply anyone , even small kids ?
Really sad state of affairs!! I feel sorry for you Maryam
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